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[wesleysgirl]

Apparently I feel like posting tonight when I really should be making dinner. Okay, actually, dinner is mostly made. The chicken for the cashew chicken is marinating, the brown rice is cooking, the broccoli is cut and washed and steamed. The actual stir-frying isn't done until the last minute.

I feel some guilt about the fact that I don't friend everyone who friends me. Which is possibly stupid. I don't have a policy, I only have complete randomness. But I don't want anyone to feel bad about the fact that I haven't friended them. The reality is, most of my non-public posts are simply flocked (not filtered) and most of my filtered posts are filtered to one person for co-writing purposes. Most of my flocked posts are personal. The recent ones have been about the boy being sick, the cat being sick, a wedding we went to, and family stuff. Things that plenty of y'all probably wouldn't be all that interested in reading about anyway, but, more importantly, stuff that might be recognizable to people I know not-on-the-internet. I'm pretty reluctant to friend new people these days, even people whose LJ's I WANT to read, because I'm hyper-conscious of the fact that they'll be able to read my flocked posts (and I couldn't possibly keep lots of filters straight in my head. Although if anyone has advice on that front, I guess that would be cool.)

In any case, if you care, the best way to get friended by me is probably to actually comment to my posts often enough that I start to feel like I know you, because then I won't be so hesitant to give you access to my flocked posts. I feel pretty comfy with Jossverse fans, but I don't hang out with many Spn or SGA fans (except for those who migrated from Jossverse) or in those fandoms' communities, so I don't have quite a few people's LJs friended that I might otherwise.

I wasn't this paranoid when I entered fandom, I swear! I'm not sure how it happened. I think I witnessed too many incidents in which people got outed as fans or slash writers by accident. Which sucks. But it's not like I'm going to ask people to sign a form swearing that they won't reveal my everyday identity if they want me to friend them. And maybe no one wants me to friend them anyway!

Ha ha ha ha! *Is crazy*

Comments

[fadedwings]

I usually don't feel hurt if someone doesn't friend me back if they have a large friends list and/or generally don't automatically friend back...if they friended everyone back but me, then i would take it personally and be sad ;) Unless all their posts are flocked though...that is a different story of course...no point in keeping someone friended if you can't read any of there posts!

I tend not to keep people of my fl if they don't friend me back after a while unless they have large friends lists or are "famous" or something like that. Most of my posts have been public until lately though...now I'm posting mostly flocked stuff and I'm building tighter filters lately too...and new friends don't automatically go into the tighter ones, those just have the people who have been on my list for a while.

For me it isn't really a paranoia thing though (though i tend to be paranoid, just about different things i think) it's more that I feel weird giving access to my more personal posts to people who don't give me that same sort of access...unless I know they don't read me anyway, or i really trust them or if for some reason i just don't care. I tend to be random I guess ;)

Of course one of the reasons for the filters are some people I know in real life that I don't want to talk about certain things about (though most of them don't actually read my posts anyway) It's just weird because of the strange and warped history there and the connection with another friend i tend to whine about from time to time. I've just been feeling too exposed lately but it is just a weird emotional thing...part of me has just been wanting to delete my journal period, but the husband doesn't want me too and i have a permanent account, so I won't... of course i changed the name...but that's because I'm a dork ;)

hmmm...i thought i had a point when i started this ;)

[wesleysgirl.livejournal.com]

Hee! It's okay not to have a specific point. Anyway, I think this is the kind of thing you can't just have ONE point about. It's all kinds of stuff all tangled into a big mess, pretty much.

I keep being weirded out by your name change. I see your new LJ name and think "Who is... oh, right." LOL!