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wesleysgirl) wrote2006-11-30 05:36 pm
wesleysgirl) wrote2006-11-30 05:36 pm
La la posting, la la friending, la la monkeys
Apparently I feel like posting tonight when I really should be making dinner. Okay, actually, dinner is mostly made. The chicken for the cashew chicken is marinating, the brown rice is cooking, the broccoli is cut and washed and steamed. The actual stir-frying isn't done until the last minute.
I feel some guilt about the fact that I don't friend everyone who friends me. Which is possibly stupid. I don't have a policy, I only have complete randomness. But I don't want anyone to feel bad about the fact that I haven't friended them. The reality is, most of my non-public posts are simply flocked (not filtered) and most of my filtered posts are filtered to one person for co-writing purposes. Most of my flocked posts are personal. The recent ones have been about the boy being sick, the cat being sick, a wedding we went to, and family stuff. Things that plenty of y'all probably wouldn't be all that interested in reading about anyway, but, more importantly, stuff that might be recognizable to people I know not-on-the-internet. I'm pretty reluctant to friend new people these days, even people whose LJ's I WANT to read, because I'm hyper-conscious of the fact that they'll be able to read my flocked posts (and I couldn't possibly keep lots of filters straight in my head. Although if anyone has advice on that front, I guess that would be cool.)
In any case, if you care, the best way to get friended by me is probably to actually comment to my posts often enough that I start to feel like I know you, because then I won't be so hesitant to give you access to my flocked posts. I feel pretty comfy with Jossverse fans, but I don't hang out with many Spn or SGA fans (except for those who migrated from Jossverse) or in those fandoms' communities, so I don't have quite a few people's LJs friended that I might otherwise.
I wasn't this paranoid when I entered fandom, I swear! I'm not sure how it happened. I think I witnessed too many incidents in which people got outed as fans or slash writers by accident. Which sucks. But it's not like I'm going to ask people to sign a form swearing that they won't reveal my everyday identity if they want me to friend them. And maybe no one wants me to friend them anyway!
Ha ha ha ha! *Is crazy*
I feel some guilt about the fact that I don't friend everyone who friends me. Which is possibly stupid. I don't have a policy, I only have complete randomness. But I don't want anyone to feel bad about the fact that I haven't friended them. The reality is, most of my non-public posts are simply flocked (not filtered) and most of my filtered posts are filtered to one person for co-writing purposes. Most of my flocked posts are personal. The recent ones have been about the boy being sick, the cat being sick, a wedding we went to, and family stuff. Things that plenty of y'all probably wouldn't be all that interested in reading about anyway, but, more importantly, stuff that might be recognizable to people I know not-on-the-internet. I'm pretty reluctant to friend new people these days, even people whose LJ's I WANT to read, because I'm hyper-conscious of the fact that they'll be able to read my flocked posts (and I couldn't possibly keep lots of filters straight in my head. Although if anyone has advice on that front, I guess that would be cool.)
In any case, if you care, the best way to get friended by me is probably to actually comment to my posts often enough that I start to feel like I know you, because then I won't be so hesitant to give you access to my flocked posts. I feel pretty comfy with Jossverse fans, but I don't hang out with many Spn or SGA fans (except for those who migrated from Jossverse) or in those fandoms' communities, so I don't have quite a few people's LJs friended that I might otherwise.
I wasn't this paranoid when I entered fandom, I swear! I'm not sure how it happened. I think I witnessed too many incidents in which people got outed as fans or slash writers by accident. Which sucks. But it's not like I'm going to ask people to sign a form swearing that they won't reveal my everyday identity if they want me to friend them. And maybe no one wants me to friend them anyway!
Ha ha ha ha! *Is crazy*
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