I usually don't feel hurt if someone doesn't friend me back if they have a large friends list and/or generally don't automatically friend back...if they friended everyone back but me, then i would take it personally and be sad ;) Unless all their posts are flocked though...that is a different story of course...no point in keeping someone friended if you can't read any of there posts!

I tend not to keep people of my fl if they don't friend me back after a while unless they have large friends lists or are "famous" or something like that. Most of my posts have been public until lately though...now I'm posting mostly flocked stuff and I'm building tighter filters lately too...and new friends don't automatically go into the tighter ones, those just have the people who have been on my list for a while.

For me it isn't really a paranoia thing though (though i tend to be paranoid, just about different things i think) it's more that I feel weird giving access to my more personal posts to people who don't give me that same sort of access...unless I know they don't read me anyway, or i really trust them or if for some reason i just don't care. I tend to be random I guess ;)

Of course one of the reasons for the filters are some people I know in real life that I don't want to talk about certain things about (though most of them don't actually read my posts anyway) It's just weird because of the strange and warped history there and the connection with another friend i tend to whine about from time to time. I've just been feeling too exposed lately but it is just a weird emotional thing...part of me has just been wanting to delete my journal period, but the husband doesn't want me too and i have a permanent account, so I won't... of course i changed the name...but that's because I'm a dork ;)

hmmm...i thought i had a point when i started this ;)