Re: the kerfuffles, I think it's easier to Just Back Away when it's not a fandom you're deeply invested in (and I couldn't honestly say that I'm not at least a little bit grateful NOT to get involved in kerfuffles most of the time, because it's not fun!)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who was so devoted to Buffy, although I'm sad it doesn't seem to be unusual that people find it hard to move on.